May 11, 2020
For me, Self kindness begins in our minds. Way too often are we diminishing ourselves while building up others, filling others’ cups before we fill our own, deciding our worth based on made up ideas in our own mind, and holding ourselves back from opportunities, situations and conversations because we refuse to acknowledge our worth and our place at those tables. How many times have I (or you) refused your tummy the warmth of the sunshine because you didn’t want to put on the bikini, OR held back a comment or joke at a party because you were too afraid of what people would think, Or not taken an opportunity that could have led to something great because you felt you were not smart enough, brave enough or WORTHY enough.
I am VERY guilty of all these things.
In fact when we started talking about self kindness as a topic I began writing down these ideas about celebrating ourselves, being kind to ourselves and changing our inner monologues and yet… it sounded SO hypocritical because it’s not something I practice myself.
When it comes to building myself up or celebrating the body I’m in or the ideas that I have… I am NOT kind. I have historically, been quite cruel. So how can I sit here and talk about we all should practice kindness to ourselves when I am not nailing it either?
So instead, I am going to take a second to make a promise right here and now and invite you all to join me. I am promising to make a conscious effort to consciously switch my inner monologue and be kinder. Kinder to MYSELF.
I am going to celebrate my small and big WINS. I am going to express myself with KINDNESS, COMPASSION, UNDERSTANDING, FORGIVENESS and LOVE!
Sounds so easy! But I won’t sugar coat this, it is not easy. It takes practice. It takes us all supporting each other. So together, in order to make some sense of how to work on this, we have come up with 5 (let’s call them Kindness Mantras) to help guide this conversation towards self-kindness in relation to our self-talk. So here we go….Number #1
#1. Celebrate your winds ( no matter how small they may seem)
#2. Be your own cheerleader
#3. Say goodbye to your inner critic ( she’s a bitch anyway)
#4. Change your thoughts- you are what you believe
#5. Be your own best friend – and LOVE her.